This blog is here to honour the life of Olivia Jane Penpraze, who took her life in April, 2012, due to a desperate and difficult fight with mental illnesses. This is a place to ask for advice, to vent, a place to come when you need someone else to be strong. A place to come when you need kind words, A place to come to when you need someone to stand up, and show you how to keep holding on, to show you how to get the help that is needed. <3

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Alternatives to Self Harm

Here are some things that you can try if you feel as though you want to self harm. Not all of these will work, and you will need to do a bit of trial and error to see what will help, but just remember that there are always other things you can do apart from self harming.

  • Draw on your arm in red marker.
  • Squeeze some ice cubes.
  • Put some chilli or cayenne pepper on your tongue.
  • Eat a really sour lolly. 
  • Take a shower or a bath.
  • Go for a run. 
  • Write a journal. 
  • Scream into a pillow.
  • Rip up some paper.
  • Scribble on a piece of paper until the whole page is covered.
  • Hug a stuffed toy, or a person, or a pet.
  • Snap a rubber band on your wrist.
  • Clap your hands until it hurts.
  • Wax your legs. (I know it sounds weird but it can help :p)
  • Blow up a balloon and pop it.
  • Drink some tea.
  • Write short stories with characters that are expressing exactly the same feelings/emotions as you.
  • Write a letter, throw it away, or burn it afterwards.
  • Do something creative, such as photography, drawing, etc.
  • Read your favorite book.
  • Write in a journal.
  • Call a friend, and just have a conversation.
  • Find a safe food that you can force yourself to eat (if you have an eating disorder. EX: Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, bananas, lemons, or anything else you’ve found is easy for you to eat, even if you didn’t want to.)
  • Go for a walk.
  • Pluck your eyebrows.
  • Listen to music.
  • Watch your favorite movie.
  • Write positive messages on stickies and put them on your bathroom mirror.
  • Try the Butterfly Project.
  • Try the Paper Chain Project. 
  • Talk to somebody (whether it’s a friend or a family member, a psych or a counsellor, us, or even to nothing at the thoughts room) (
  • Do push ups
  • Dance
  • Find something you can make yourself laugh at. Laughter really is the best medicine.
  • Meditate
  • Yoga
  • Bake something
  • Help out a neighbor with their lawn or anything they may have problems with themselves
  • Do things that make you feel proud, such as leaving positive messages around your town for people to find.
  • Build a birdhouse
  • Do paper origami
  • Make silly home videos
  • Attempt to do all of the blogilates work outs

Remember, you are strong and brave and wonderful, and you can make it through this. <3